by Marcia Hinds – Megan and Ryan’s Mom
I was once where you are now, devastated by this diagnosis and scared out of my mind for my child’s future. The “experts” said my son would need to be institutionalized. They were wrong. Ryan is now an engineer at a major aerospace company. His recovery was not miraculous, but the result of receiving proper medical care.
Although it has been more than twenty five years since Ryan was diagnosed,it is still not common knowledge that autism is medical and treatable. An “autism” diagnosis no longer has to mean “game over.” If a child’s health can be restored by treating hidden viruses and infections, children improve and for some full recovery becomes possible. Parents no longer have to helplessly watch as their children slip away.
Although my son is now a very typical young adult, getting there took more than a decade filled with mistakes, guilt, wrong turns, and frustration as we tried to make sense of autism. It wasn’t easy to find a physician who treated the subset of autism my kid had. And helping my son required a never-give-up attitude that was hard to maintain. At first, I was in denial. I hoped the doctors were wrong. At that time, even I didn’t believe Ryan could ever recover or have any sort of life. When your child is first diagnosed, it is overwhelming. There is too much information out there and not many people agree on anything.
I wrote Ryan’s story to help you understand this frightening thing we call “autism.” This article has some of what you need to know to make it off Autism Island and is the cliff notes for my book I Know You’re In There – Winning Our War Against Autism which shares the roadmap we used to help him recover. All profits go to help kids on the spectrum.
When Ryan was first diagnosed, I was paralyzed with fear for my son’s future. I used to believe autism wasn’t fixable because the experts told me there was no hope, no cure, and no recovery. But I was as wrong as the “experts” because autism is TREATABLE. After my husband and I stopped looking for someone to do this for us, things started to improve. It didn’t take much time to realize that no one will do this for us and no one wants our job.
I had to learn to trust my gut, and that I knew my kid best. But I wasted valuable time crying and in the “denial” phase of autism. We can’t feel sorry for ourselves or our children for too long,because there is too much work to do. It took time for me to realize that although there are professionals to help our family, my husband and I were the ones ultimately responsible for Ryan.
Please don’t stop reading yet, because this article is the cliff notes for my book and will help you understand what autism really is…
Ryan’s recovery has shown this is a changeable medical condition. Ryan only began to make significant progress after we abandoned the idea that autism was a developmental disorder and embraced the idea of medically treating his dysfunctional immune system. The real truth about autism is that it is simply a collection of symptoms that look different in every kid. It results from is an immune system that is not functioning right. Doctors don’t use the term “messed-up immune system”, but in reality–that’s what it is. When that becomes common knowledge, more treatments will be developed and more kids will be helped.
If the multiple causes of our children’s immune problems can be remedied, the inflammation in our children’s brain is reduced. That results in improved blood flow to the compromised areas. Good blood flow means function. This makes it so children can learn what they couldn’t before. That’s when your kid has a chance at full recovery like Ryan did. However, I must warn you, this is the hardest thing I have ever done.
Some people think we should just accept autism. They say if a child is treated, it changes who that kid is. This is what my son said in an article he wrote about his recovery. “I am still the same person I was, only now I’m happy and can enjoy life. It is hard to understand that children are not receiving proper medical treatment because some people think we should celebrate autism. When doctors believe the medical issues associated with autism are just part of a ‘developmental disorder’ children are not treated for the same medical conditions as every other kid. Is that really okay?”
Autism is complicated and isn’t just one thing. It is caused by multiple layers of immune issues. Unfortunately, some kids have immune systems that are just too broken and that can’t be completely fixed. But all kids improve with proper medical intervention. You will never know just how far your child can come, unless you try. That being said, I know many families that worked as hard as we did without the same results.
Once I helped my son medically, he was able to learn all the things he missed when his immune system was seriously broken. This is the point when some parents chime in and say, “But my kid is never sick.” Some kids never mount the appropriate immune responses like effective fevers, so we think they aren’t sick. But their systems aren’t functioning properly and these children carry many stealth infections. While others, have immune systems that appear highly reactive and as a result seem to be allergic to everything. The best term to use is a dysfunctional immune system which means in “mom talk,” sometimes the immune system doesn’t work enough, but other times is working overtime.
Medical treatment alone is not enough and only makes learning possible. ABA, RDI, Son-Rise, Pivotal Response Training or whatever flavor of rehabilitation you decide to use also is needed. These rehab programs help you catch your children up on all they missed when they were unable to learn. They all work if you stick with them. We used our own version of ABA with a little RDI and Son-rise thrown in.
Our kids won’t come out of this by themselves; you have to go in there and get them. This is the hard part to deal with. I was angry when I couldn’t understand why I had to teach my kid everything others just knew. If you think about all the pieces you have to coordinate to make kids better, it becomes more understandable why more kids don’t fully recover. Parents must have perseverance to beat autism or maybe just be more stubborn than their kids.
Motivation is also key to success. We used what Ryan loved and obsessed about to teach him. For my son, that meant every lesson had to include one of the following: Elevators, cars, computers, technology, sharks, electric plugs, or light switches.
It is essential to discover what your child likes and use that to teach them. Children who have autism do not find the same things rewarding as “typical” children. So it is not always easy to identify what is rewarding for a kid who has communication deficits. But all children love hugs and praise, even if they don’t always show us that is true. At first Ryan didn’t want hugs and affection. I did it anyway. And when I hugged him I said, “You have to hug me because I’m your mom, and that’s your job!”
For the skills that were especially hard for my son to learn, we used primary reinforcers. Ryan’s deficits in the motor planning area like catching a ball or riding a bike were huge. When we taught those skills, Ryan was rewarded with a Skittle or French fry.
The good news about all if this is that autism is treatable. The bad news is that there are no instant fixes or miracle cures. Trust me on this one because I looked everywhere for them. Unfortunately, even our most dedicated doctors never got “Autism 101” in medical school. It is very difficult to find a doctor who knows what to do. Your pediatrician may not know what you are talking about when you ask about the medical interventions. They actually want to help you, but just don’t know about them. And each child is an individual and will respond to treatment and rehab programs differently.
So read my book to find out what we did. I wrote it to help you and share what it took me years to learn. And please help me spread the word that “autism is treatable. ” I don’t want to make a dime off the desperation, fear, or misery this diagnosis brings so any profit goes to treatment centers or medical research to help our kids. I just want all kids to have the kind of life my son now has. And when your kid is better, I expect all of you to join me in the fight. We will help the families (still in the trenches) that come behind us.
When the rest of the world realizes autism is treatable, more research and the answers will come to help more kids. When you preview my book on my website or on Amazon, you will RETHINK autism. Make sure you don’t skip the “Foreword” written by Ryan and the “Preface.”
You can do this! If you think you have exhausted all possibilities, you haven’t! New treatments are being developed all the time and you are no longer alone on Autism Island. I will be here to help you any way I can. So email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you need help finding the right doctor or coming up with a plan.
There is HOPE…it is possible to have a different outcome for children with autism!
Check out this video called, Changing the Face of Autism. It has become the official video of the AutismOne nonprofit. It will inspire you to keep going and shows kids in various stages of recovery! Look for the picture of Ryan graduating from college and surfing!
Profits from I Know You’re In There: Winning Our War Against Autism go to spread the word that autism is TREATABLE and to develop new medical treatment centers!
Preview the book on Amazon or at http://a.co/epKB86Q